Tuesday, April 10, 2012

A Meaningful Life: Stay-at-home Mom

Taken from Ben's Iphone last week when Cheyenne was sick.

If you've seen the movie Courageous, the fathers sign a resolution to be good fathers. I thought this was kind of funny because in our church we have what's called The Family: A Proclamation to the World that is basically the same thing. Although we aren't required to sign it, we basically "sign" it by making the same covenants in our temples. I know it to be true that The Proclamation and temple covenants come from God through modern prophets today.

An excerpt from the Proclamation reads: 
"By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners."

It is from the phrase highlighted above that most women in our church interpret this to mean being a stay-at-home mother. Obviously, this is not the case for every Mormon woman but I feel good about it in this stage of my life right now.

Growing up, I had always planned on being a stay-at-home mom. And then I arrived. It was a little disappointing, to say the least. I went from stretching my brain on a college campus to cleaning up spit-up and doing dishes 24/7. It's not what you would call glamorous or fun.

I got so confused on how this was supposed to be fulfilling for me and where I was supposed to use my brains. I've had a good 17 months to ponder over this, and have come to the same conclusion Sister Beck does in this video. Sister Beck used to the president of the Relief Society, the women's organization in our church.

I'm so grateful for the chance to be the "CEO" of my household. I've learned a lot and am still learning a lot about how to be the best stay-at-home mom, but I know it is where I'm supposed to be. I know when I step back and look at the big picture, my worries and concerns seem minuscule in the big eternal plan Heavenly Father has for us.


  1. I love this post--I totally feel the same way! My transition has definitely been difficult at times--it does help to see the big picture and remember that I have so much more impact as a mother than I would have working in an office. Thanks for sharing the video!

  2. I love you. I love your kind soul. You are such a good mother and gangster. Thank you for adding a little perspective into my day!

  3. Well said. My great grandma told me the other day that it was a sad day (world war 2 era) when women decided that staying home and raising kids was no longer fulfilling or the most important job she could have. Go work your butt off for a company and as soon as you leave someone replaces you, no one can replace a child's mother. It's taken me a while to realize this too.

  4. thanks for posting ashley! i appreciate your comments & that video is great ;)

  5. Beautiful, thanks so much for sharing!

  6. Thanks for sharing the video! I have struggled as well, but I really like that idea - look at it as being the CEO. Thanks again!